The Boldness Barometer: Finding Your Way to Assertive Communication

A few years ago, I was driving to a speaking gig, rehearsing my talk on communication when this notion came to me: The Boldness Barometer. Yes, I like alliteration. The idea is that assertiveness exists on a spectrum from Not Assertive to Too Assertive. Let’s look at both ends of the spectrum and figure out how to find balance. On one side of the spectrum are... Keep Reading »

Confidence Trumps Competence: How to Manage an Interview

Have you ever noticed how some people get ahead in life purely on what seems to be an abundance of confidence, when in fact they lack the actual skills for—and competence in—their roles? Confidence trumps competence. I tell clients that coming across as confident can often overcome a lack of competence. Do I mean that if you have absolutely no qualifications but you... Keep Reading »

Layoff Trauma and the Grief Cycle

A few weeks ago, I joined up with Teegan Bartos of Jolt Your Career for a LinkedIn Live conversation about layoff trauma. As I support clients who have been impacted by layoffs, it’s clear that many are in a grief cycle. And to make matters worse, they often aren’t aware and thus aren’t equipped with tools to process what they’re experiencing. I witness them locked... Keep Reading »

Selling Yourself: Your Job Search as Sales Cycle

A job search is often uncomfortable because we’re suddenly put into a sales role, and the product we’re selling is us. For those not naturally inclined to sales, particularly those of an introverted persuasion, this can be sheer torture.   I often refer to this analogy in my coaching. Here, I break it down in hopes that the clarity allows for a bit more comfort... Keep Reading »

Boundaries, Energy Vampires and Hungry Ghosts

I was all in, trying to identify a workable solution for a friend who was, quite literally, fighting for her life. I’ll call her Tracy. Over a few weeks last spring, I had quickly become Tracy’s “person,” providing hours of emotional support and jumping in with logistical help to manage the complexities of her life following a complicated medical diagnosis (where... Keep Reading »