“I Wish I Could Have a Cookie” Is Not a Question

Have you ever felt that you’ve clearly asked for something from someone but they never “got” the message? Perhaps you were direct in your mind but not with the words that came out of your mouth.

In my program Be Bold, Not Bossy and in my one-on-one private coaching, I talk a lot about how the nuances of our communication habits affect the outcomes of our conversations. For instance, overuse of the words “just” or “sorry” send unintentional signals of subordination. Editing them out of conversations – both in email and face-to-face – can make significant positive improvements as to how we’re perceived.

Clarity in how we communicate is critical to getting the results we want. These habits are formed early and show up throughout life but they can also be altered.

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The Real Reason Why Women Don’t Negotiate for Higher Salaries

I recently launched a new web-based course based on my popular talk, Be Bold, Not Bossy: Leading with Humility, Tact and Assertiveness to Rock Your Career. In my pilot program last spring we spent a good hour discussing the topic of negotiation, specifically as it relates to women and why women equate negotiating salary with the discomfort of a trip to the dentist.

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